| PARENTING TIPS: TWO TANTRUMS PAGES
There are two behavioral truths and two critical realities around the issue of tantrums.
The only person you can control is yourself.
Therefore, how to BE around tantrums is the first and greatest hurdle we adults must all face.
Your parenting and teaching role means that your job here is to be a very calm person to is able to clearly, consistently and competently communicate as an authoritative adult who will feel warm and caring inside for a person while setting firm limits on the outside, in order to become a model of the mature persons you both can grow into over time. That is your only problem here and it is a big one--so hang onto that problem and define it and solve it. If you do then you are ready to see that:
The only person who can control a person with Autism is that person with Autism. Therefore their Autism and their tantrums are THEIR problems and not yours. Let them go inside and get a grip on your role as a C.A.L.M. parent/teacher on the outside.
These two articles will help you begin to learn about how to BE and what to DO about Tantrums.
We highly recommend that you get involved in Threshold's local and online CALM workshops ASAP. Please find that information in Our Organization's>Current Training and Our Practice Models >CALM links on our homepage. We can help. But first try out these pages to get started:
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